So how do I know the kind of marriage
partner I may be? What are the warning signs that tell me I’ll most likely not
make my marriage enjoyable? Today on ishare100, Jerry Okelade (Pst) shares with
us on 5 signs that you maybe a bad marriageable partner.
Just as a doctor will diagnose a sins
through its signs and symptoms in the same way, it so good to diagnose whether
you are a good marriage material. In order not drive home my point, it is good
to x-ray some of the signs and symptoms of a bad marriage material.
When You’re
Selfish
Marriage is not only a commitment a
haven where the essence of love is in self-giving. This is not to suggest that
you should lose yourself with your spouse, which can also be detrimental to a marriage.
It only means if you’re only thinking about yourself, your spouse becomes an
object-not a partner- and mutual love cannot grow. If you want him to cater to you
constantly without reciprocating, you’re not good when it comes to compromise,
and you don’t want to share him with family and friends, chance s are your
selfishness will eventually alienate and suffocate him. Most selfish people use
their partners’ love against them and hold their partners accountable for their
own happiness.
2. When You’re
Extremely Jealous
If you’re a jealous person by nature,
this won’t change once you out a ring on it- it’ll only make it worse. Agreed
that we’ve all been jealous from time to time, and some may argue that a
healthy level of jealousy is actually good for a relationship. However, extreme
jealousy is a sign of insecurity, and professing your love before God and guest
won’t change feelings of low self-esteem or inadequacy. Now that’ he’s not just
your boyfriend, but your husband, your possessiveness will increase tenfold and
you will feel threatened by every woman he homes in contact with if you don’t
get a handle on your jealousy issues. Be honest with yourself and get help if
needed.
3. When You’re A
Party/Club Person
Most men wouldn’t take too kindly to
their wife dropping it like it’s hot in the club every night. A few ladies
could tolerate a night crawler for a man. There’s nothing wrong with partying
and mad marrying and having a good time with friends, but when you have a
partner at home who wants to spend quality time with you, it’s not good. Going
out with your girls from time to time is great, and he should get out with the
peers as well. No one is suggesting that you cut off the rest of the world where
you have no outlet. However, the type of opening and frequency should not
compromise the amount of time you spend with each other. In marriage, you need
to find a balance between being together and being out with others.
4. When You Do Not
Like Children
There is nothing wrong with liking or
not wanting children – it’s not for everyone, and it doesn’t automatically
exclude you from being seen as a wife material. However, you have to keep in
mind that if you are a dating a person who wants children\, or who has children
already, then it won’t matter how much you love him/her….it’ll never work.
He/she will resent you, and you’ll be miserable. Children are a commitment all
on their own aside from marriage, so if you both aren’t united on this front,
the marriage will eventually collapse.
5. When You Are
Promiscuous Or A Cheat
Let’s face it, you know if you’re a
cheater or not. This is not to say that once a cheater, always a cheater but
most people who are repeatedly unfaithful in relationships don’t change unless
they truly are ready and they want to. If you want to, then great you can
change and be a great wife to a wonderful man. But if you haven’t finished
sowing your royal oats, then don’t bring anyone else into your mess. Remain
single until you can remain faithful
